The Great Wedding Gift Conundrum: How Much You Really Should Spend

Everyone has their own opinion and rules, but here's what the experts suggest you should spend.

BY: Jennifer Belanger

Updated: November 15, 2023

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Ah, weddings – a magical blend of love, laughter, and ~~drinking~~ dancing the night away. As you slip on your dancing shoes and prepare to celebrate the happy couple, a burning question arises: “How much should I spend on the wedding gift?” Fear not, for we’re here to unravel the mystery and inject some fun into the delightful world of wedding gift budgets. Let’s embark on this exhilarating journey of gift-giving and find the perfect balance between splurging and saving!

If you don’t feel like reading through this whole article. Here’s your short answer: Average spending on a wedding gift (cash or gift card) ranges from $120 – $150 per person.

There are a lot of caveats to that, so we’ll get into that below. We actually consulted with some true wedding experts out there from The Knot, Brides.com, Vogue Magazine, Emily Post. Coupled with our gift giving expertise and overall wedding gift etiquette, we think this will help answer your question based on a variety of different scenarios.

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Keep in mind that we always recommend doing what you can and it’s really the thought that counts, of course. But, that aside, while these are averages you should consider more if you’re bringing a +1. So it’ll likely double.

Another rule of thumb is to at least “cover the cost of the plate” at the wedding. Other factors will come into play as well like if it’s a destination wedding, where in the country you live (i.e, cost of living differences), if it’s black-tie, etc.

Here are some more things to consider when figuring out what you should spend and even some ways to save a bit. Yes, it can be done!

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THE LOVE EQUATION

When it comes to budgeting for a wedding gift, let the love equation be your guide. Consider your relationship with the couple, your level of affection, and how much you want to shower them with happiness. Whether it’s a best friend, a close family member, or a cherished colleague, let your heart lead the way.

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DANCING WITH DOLLARS

While love is the currency that truly matters, let’s talk about the other kind – dollars! On average, a wedding gift typically falls within the range of $120 to $150. However, don’t feel constrained by this range. Whether you choose to go above or below it, the most important thing is that your gift is heartfelt and meaningful.

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THE GENERAL RULE OF THUMB

For those seeking a straightforward approach, the rule of thumb suggests spending around the cost of one plate at the wedding reception. This approach can help you gauge an appropriate amount while avoiding any budgeting headaches.

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THE GROUP GIFT EXTRAVAGANZA

Wedding gift-giving doesn’t have to be a solo act! Gather your friends or family for a group gift extravaganza. Pool your resources and purchase a larger gift from the couple’s registry. Not only does this ensure a memorable gift, but it also spreads the joy among everyone involved.

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GO WITH CREATIVE & THOUGHTFUL

Remember, the value of a wedding gift isn’t solely determined by its price tag. If you’re having some current budget issues, don’t stress! Personalized, creative, and thoughtful gifts often leave the most lasting impression. Consider making a DIY photo album or a heartfelt letter expressing your well-wishes. These treasures will surely be cherished for years to come.

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DESTINATION WEDDINGS & TRAVEL COSTS

If the wedding takes you on a delightful adventure, take into account the travel expenses. Splurging on a thoughtful gift doesn’t mean you have to break the bank. Factor in your travel costs and allocate a budget that allows you to express your love without stressing about finances.

IN CONCLUSION

In the marvelous world of wedding gift-giving, there’s no one-size-fits-all approach. The amount you spend should reflect your relationship with the couple, your financial situation, and your genuine desire to celebrate their love. So, don’t stress over dollars and cents – let the love in your heart guide you. Whether it’s a sentimental keepsake or a lavish surprise, your wedding gift will undoubtedly bring smiles, laughter, and happiness to the couple’s special day. So, dance with dollars and shower them with love – after all, love is the greatest gift of all!